Romantic rejection can be incredibly hard to endure. The good news is rejection may hurt a bit less when you handle it well. Here’s how to deal with rejection without damaging your sunny disposition:
You may feel a lot of different emotions when rejected by a potential lesbian partner. Don’t let anger, hurt, frustration and disappointment make you say something you will regret later. Instead, graciously offer continued friendship if the other party is someone you know well. If not, tell the other woman to have a good day or evening, or simply say goodbye and walk away. Remember, no matter how strongly you may feel that she is right for you, you can’t make her like you romantically.
Don’t Blame Yourself
It is all too common for people to blame themselves when rejected by a potential romantic partner. However, rejection is no one’s fault, and the other woman may have reasons you aren’t aware of for saying no. For example, she might be involved with someone else, heterosexual, not interested in a dating or dealing with stressful matters in her life. Also, avoid the trap of telling yourself you’re not good enough. Remind yourself that you have many wonderful qualities and will meet someone who is right for you.
Revel in Being Single
Sometimes it seems as if everyone is part of a couple and being single feels depressing. Here’s some good news. Not only are there many single women just like you, but there are also real benefits to being single. For example, you get to choose which movie to watch next and which restaurant to go to for dinner. You can spend guilt-free time alone when you need to, and you have more free time to invest in yourself. Best of all, being single now means you still have the opportunity to find someone who is right for you rather than settling just to be part of a couple.
Go for the Distraction
Sometimes the best way to deal with the pain of a rejection is distracting yourself. Get out with friends, watch a comedy or action movie, or read a good book. While distractions can’t change what’s happened, they can help you feel better, at least temporarily.
Handling rejection by a potential romantic partner is difficult, but you can emerge happy and whole on the other side of it. Allow yourself to process your emotions, and then move on. The right partner is still out there somewhere.