There are a variety of reasons people might find themselves fearful of love. They could be afraid of intimacy, rejection, commitment, vulnerability or many other things that inevitably come with a relationship. The key to not being afraid of love is to determine all the things about love that scare you. Then, you can fully begin to understand how past experiences or belief structures may prevent you from allowing love into your life.
Vulnerability Is Strength
One of the primary aspects of giving and receiving love is being vulnerable with another person. To some extent, we are all afraid of vulnerability. This is why a vast number of people have a fear of public speaking — we’re afraid of making mistakes and being judged by others. However, allowing yourself to be vulnerable, open and honest with someone you trust can help build strength and character. Not only are you practicing the art of communication, but in the process, you are also breaking down old barriers that maintained a fearful, resistant state of mind.
Objectivity is another part to not being fearful of love. What does this mean? When examining the behavior of others — positive or negative — it’s important to not place yourself and your feelings as the cause. Remember that thoughts, actions and words of other people are not specifically caused by you. Rather, they are caused by the other individual’s fears, hopes and other life factors. If you can remain objective, seeing each circumstance as independent, you can avoid blaming and judging yourself when things don’t go as planned. Furthermore, this practice can keep you from making assumptions and jumping to conclusions in new relationships.
Cultivate a Positive Self Image
If you are ever fearful of love, it may be because you don’t readily expect it from others. You must ask yourself why you don’t expect love — and in some cases — why you don’t love and accept yourself. You may be surprised to find that upon accepting yourself, others will convey a more positive attitude toward you, too. The way others treat you can sometimes serve as a mirror for how you treat yourself.[/vc_column_text]