How to Manage being Discriminated? How to Manage being Discriminated?
This article will talk about how you can deal with the issues of gender identity and... How to Manage being Discriminated?

This article will talk about how you can deal with the issues of gender identity and sexual orientation as a member of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community, but first, we need to clear out the following;

What does being discriminated mean?

Any kind of bad treatment against LGBT people (or any race for that matter) solely because of a difference in views is considered to be discrimination. This is especially seen in the LGBT community where community members experience numerous mental health issues and now unfortunately the affects are moving to other parts of the world. Today, in almost all countries where the concept of gender identity is changing, discrimination and violence is targeting the individual at all places, be it their residence, schools and offices.

What are the forms of discrimination which have a high rate of disturbance?

The symbols are many, the rate of poor treatment starts with a small joke and might end at serious physical violence. According to the latest data, LGBT people are ten times more at risk to be discriminated than others. This discrimination is usually in the form of;

  • Rejection,
  • Bullying,
  • Homelessness,
  • Joblessness,
  • Lack of adoption and raising opportunities,
  • Cut off from priority list for security,
  • Physical and mental abuse.

Why discrimination needs to be managed? The psychological effects

The social learning theory states that to make people who are being discriminated upon usually end up beingsensitive, negatively reactive to others, psychiatric patients (mainly depressive), suicidal, criminals and addicts. The personality might become antisocial or even psychopathic at times, if the attacks are frequent during the person’s adolescence.

These individuals need therapy usually once a month to counsel their personal feelings and to share their experiences and to receive aid about how to survive with their current mental health.

What do you need to think about before taking any action against anyone?

When a mortgage lender, letting agent, landlord or other service provider is seen as being discriminatory towards you, consider these questions-

  • Did they treat you less similar than others?
  • Did they behave badly with you without any obvious reason?
  • Did they develop a situation for comparison between you and others?
  • The Equality Act 2010 protects you against discrimination.

If all of the answers you get are YES, then decide on what you really want and whether you have proof?

Ask yourself

Check out the following options to determine what you need to deal with those who discriminate or treat you wrongfully because of your sexual preferences.

  • Their apology.
  • Their intention behind their actions.
  • To get back the reward you have refused because of the discriminating behavior such as a job opportunity or admission in a certain organization.
  • To complain about it and ask for changes in policies, so that they will be in your favor.

Next step is to collect all the information related to that unpleasant event. To do that you can write notes, time, place, people involved, and almost everything minute detail you can think about.

Other evidence to gather can be a copy of the communication done by the opposite party, a print of an email, a recording of a phone call, a transcript of what words they had used for you are all very helpful.

There is no limit to the amount of proof you can gather so do as much as you can and just be confident. Also, ask a few people who were present at that time if they would be willing to testify during legal procedures.

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A good idea!

Firstly, you should try to solve the problem yourself in an informal way. Simply write a letter or an application to the person or an organization involved in the discrimination act you have gone through. Write the details about what you need them to do and what you actually want to happen next time you have any unpleasant interactions with the same group of people.

Equality and International Human Rights Commission

You may contact a human rights organization, which have an office in every country. Apart from that, there are many different equality-based institutions for legal rights issues and complaints. This is the best thing to do if you have not got a satisfactory answer from the opposite party even after using the above-mentioned efforts. Human rights institutes can help you in the following ways;

  • The options you have while contemplating legal proceedings.
  • Guide you about local laws and how you can use those laws to your advantage.

Some things to consider

Legal cases will be stressful and time consuming, which is why you need strong supporters and financial resources to get by. Also, you need to apply within 6 months from the time of the discrimination event. If you win, the court decision will be any one of the following;

  • Make them to apologize,
  • To balance your feelings,
  • Force them to change their policies or,
  • Any suitable order other than the ones written above.

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Nazish Idrees

Nazish Idrees

My name is Nazish Idrees and I have been practicing in the field of Clinical Psychology since my graduation. I have dealt with various kinds of vulnerable population in public and private sectors for therapeutic services, psychological and psychometric assessments, took part in research projects and community interventions. My MS in Clinical Psychology is in process from the University of Central Punjab Lahore, Pakistan. For over three years, I have been a ghostwriter for diverse content niches. These cover psychology and nutrition. This has also lead to other therapies and natural treatments including herbal skincare and aromatherapy. Feel free to join the Facebook Group -