When you enter the world of lesbian dating, one of the first things you’ll notice is that many traditional dating rules don’t apply. While it can be refreshing to throw out the tired old gender stereotypes that dominate heterosexual dating, it can leave you wondering how to answer questions such as: Who pays for dinner? When should you go in for the kiss?
To help you navigate these tricky dating situations, take a look at these guidelines for lesbian dating manners before you arrange to meet the girl of your dreams.
Initiating a Date
So, there’s a girl you like, but you’re not sure whether to ask her out or wait for her to initiate. If you both take the approach of letting the other ask first, you’re likely to be in for a long wait. Therefore, if there’s someone special who you’d like to take out for dinner… just ask. She may be relieved that you made the first move.
Lesbian dating manners don’t set rules about who pays based on gender. Instead, etiquette dictates that the person who initiated the date pays. If this date was your idea, sweep your girl off her feet by picking up the check and waving away her offer to pay her half. However, don’t get into a fight over who pays. If your date insists on splitting the bill, let go of your pride and respect what she wants to do.
It’s the end of the evening, you’ve both had a great time… should you go in for the kiss? It’s a tricky question, and the best solution is to take it slow. Start by moving closer and touching your date’s hand or hair. If you get a positive response, then you may be able to slowly move in for the kiss. On the other hand, if your date backs away from your advances, don’t push it.
After the Date
After the date, it’s nice to send a quick text message to let her know you had a good time. Follow up a couple of days later with a suggestion for a second date, then wait for a response. Avoid the temptation to text your dream girl every hour; while you don’t want to look like you’re playing hard to get, it’s also not a good idea to come across as obsessive. Hopefully, she’ll get in touch within a few days and you’ll soon be enjoying your second date together.