Everybody has a point in their lives where they wonder if the person they are with may be the one. After all, you are already committed if you have been with your partner for over a year and you live together. What’s stopping you from getting married?
Questions to Ask Yourself Before Proposing
If you feel as though you are ready to move forward and get married, you should do an internal review first. This review should focus on yourself as well as your partner and your relationship. Asking these questions below will help you suss out if you are ready to get married:
- Is it love? Love can be many things to many people, but deep down in your heart, you need to be sure. Getting married is a legal contract that binds you to someone. If you do not love them, you will often regret the decision.
- Are you good together? Is she good for you, and are you good for her? Do you support each other, in all the ways possible, to ensure a good life? Discussing toxic behaviors before settling down is important.
- Have you discussed marriage before? The subject will come up between long-term partners at some point, and it is usually a good sign. It means you both want the same future.
- Could you see yourself having children? This is the most important question with marriage. In the U.S., it can be difficult for same-sex couples to adopt if they are not married. If you and your partner want to be moms, then marriage is definitely in the cards.
Taking the Next Step
Once you have decided marriage is right for you, you’ll have two basic choices. You can discuss marriage with your partner, or you can propose. Either way is a good start to making marriage a part of your relationship.
When your partner says yes, it is time to celebrate! Plan your engagement party, and invite your loved ones to celebrate with you. You are moving forward together.
A Piece of Advice
A marriage is a piece of paper binding you to each other in legal matters. That is it. It does not change you, or your wife, or your relationship — it just makes it official in legal terms.
Enjoy planning your wedding with your fiancee, and enjoy bringing your families and friends together to mark this occasion. Walking down the aisle is just a symbol of the commitment you two have already. Don’t put too much stress on yourself. Have fun celebrating your union, and begin your life together with joy!