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Judging others is wrong. There, simple! We all know it, still we always do it: we judge everything from people to pets to everything under... Stop Judging, Start Accepting

Judging others is wrong.

There, simple! We all know it, still we always do it: we judge everything from people to pets to everything under the sun and most of all, we judge ourselves.

We always judge ourselves, because more often than not, when we judge others, we are judging a part of ourselves we don’t like. This is especially true in the LGBT community where Internalised Homophobia seems to be on the rise. Not fully accepting your sexuality, even when you are out; not feeling comfortable with others who are far more liberated in being who they are, are some examples of this.

Not feeling comfortable leads to judging or labelling a couple kissing in the street as “promiscuous”, stating that you’re against people who look or act “too gay”. Often, this comes from an inner jealousy of wanting to be that open, of wishing you can be that free. Next time you notice yourself judging a person just for who he or she is, take a long hard look back at yourself and ask yourself:

“Why am I judging?” and “What am I judging?”

Are you really judging this person because you don’t like who he or she is? Or are you judging this person because they represent parts of you that you wish you could release or parts that maybe you don’t like? If this is the case, then maybe you should let go of judging others and start reflecting on yourself. Ask yourself:

“Why don’t I like these parts?” or “Why can’t I release them?”

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Why do you have trouble with your sexuality or other aspects of yourself? What is blocking you from being who you are or want to be? Work through all this and then, face that person you judged again, and see if your opinion of them has changed. If it did, you would have learnt to accept a part of yourself, which in turn, would have taught you to be more accepting of others – a step towards a better life. Well done!

Dannii Cohen

Dannii Cohen

Dannii Cohen is a psychologist, counsellor and author specialised in LGBT issues.
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