Humility is a crucial component in any healthy lesbian relationship because it involves one main thing: sacrificing your own self-gratification to meet your partner’s needs. In order for a romantic relationship to blossom and evolve, both partners must have enough humility to admit when they are wrong and see things from the other’s perspective.
Humility Fosters Forgiveness
Humility fosters forgiveness in romantic relationships. Studies show that it is easier to forgive a partner’s hurtful actions if a healthy level of humility exists in the relationship. Humility is the first step to healing, but two things must happen first:
- The partner who committed the act must be humble enough to admit her mistake.
- The “victim” must be humble enough to set aside her pride so she can view the situation with a clear lens.
Believe it or not, a good dose of humility can help heal relationship problems that, up until now, seemed impossible to overcome. However, this isn’t to say that every problem should be healed with humility. If you are repeatedly feeling hurt or betrayed by your partner’s actions, it’s up to you to decide when enough is enough.
Humility Fuels Relationship Growth
When you possess a humble heart, the door of your relationship stays open to further growth, insights and understanding. Humility provides an honest, humble view of your own importance, allowing you to admit and accept your flaws without the interference of your ego getting in the way. When you set aside your egotistical pride and humbly acknowledge your shortcomings, your relationship can flourish and evolve.
A lack of humility is a major roadblock in many relationships. If a romantic relationship lacks humility during times of stress, its growth will be stunted. Real relationship growth requires that each partner is rigorously self-aware, especially during times of conflict, and self-awareness is a primary trait of humility. The happiest lesbian couples include partners who use conflicts and problems as vehicles for growth in the relationship.
Humility Creates Stronger Bonds
One of the primary benefits of maintaining humility is its ability to strengthen the bond you have with your partner. Humility promotes a “we” attitude in close relationships so you actually enjoy making sacrifices for your partner. It’s important to note that both people in the relationship must have humility for this to work. Otherwise, one partner could easily exploit the other’s generous and forgiving heart.
Contrary to what some believe, humility does not signify a lack of self-esteem. Actually, the opposite is true. Some of the most confident people in the world are also the most humble, because they view their own strengths, talents and accomplishments with proper perspective. They feel no need to be “better” than anyone else, because they are already confident in their own abilities.
If your lesbian relationship could use some humility, it’s never too late to start. Humility is like a muscle; the more you practice, the easier it is to use. If you are having a really tough time acting with humility in the relationship, maybe it’s time to look at the underlying cause of your poor self-esteem.