This piece of discussion comes out from the health and care issues of the LGBT community. The limited help of health care professionals forces members of the LGBT community to find out solutions for themselves. While the professionals are building sources for the community, instant help ideas are given below-
Loving and healing one’s self is important
The only way to reduce the everyday worries that the LGBT member faces is by creating an environment where they can be comfortable and carefree. This can be done through communication to express the feelings they have about their own identities and that of others. It will help in mitigating the negative emotions as well.
Wait & Remember
“Charity begins at home”, start loving yourself before thinking about someone else to love you.
• Try to avoid feeling alone by starting an enjoyable activity you like whenever you feel sad or bored.
• Place your identity at the top of the list during daily activities, set aside some “me time” for yourself.
• Practice relaxation exercises daily or at least some movements to shift attention from those negative thoughts in your mind.
Ways to love
• Pick up a small diary and start writing three sentences daily about what you like about you throughout the day; add praises, compliments and appreciations that someone gave you that day in the diary, just before bed time at night is the perfect time to contemplate on all the good that happened to you that day. This will help spread happiness and positivity within your brain during the night. You can also use pages to add them in a file. The purpose is to read the file once a week from start to end, to be in touch with the feeling of love with you and the love that people have for you. You can name it a happy diary.
• Stick some of your nice photos in front of your mirror to keep you motivated to groom yourself regularly. Remember, if you look good, you are going to feel good.
• Showcase all your accomplishments. If you don’t have any major ones build a letter, a certificate or any chart and include all the dedication and devotion you ever show in your life, work, study or anywhere. This will reinforce your thoughts of being a winner.
• Don’t be shy to pat yourself on the shoulder whenever you have succeeded in a task, even if it’s a small one.
• Pay attention to what you eat, chew slowly and enjoy each bite every time you take anything in your mouth.
How to heal?
• Make a habit of walking with your head up straight in the direction of your eyes, and smile whenever you see anyone in front of you.
• Write down on a paper all the feelings, everything that’s disturbing you. Putting your negative thoughts to paper will erase the burden from your body. In the end, just destroy the papers or the notes you wrote because of the bad feelings. And imagine those negative thoughts burning along with it.
• Paste few notes having colorful images of cool places you would like to visit, anything you like or are inspired from, or motivational quotes, happiness quotes, or the phrases you feel help you get through the day. You can read those quotes time after time to help you stay focused on your tasks. You can also create a timetable as well or a marking sheet to think about the important tasks of the day..
• Count on your fingers the blessings you love the most and be grateful for each one of them. Remember the people who have made you feel good about yourself and try to be positive.
• List down seven reasons to live and seven hard times of your life which made you tough.
• Run, walk, jump or any movement that can cheer you up.
It is when you feel you are doing something solely for yourself that is the time when you will be able to love and heal yourself!
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